Unlearning:
“It is time to unlearn things you learned from wounded people.”
Reflect on your childhood years. Who were the people whose opinions mattered the most? Who did you most want to receive love and attention from? Who did you need to be to receive it? Who would you be if you were not afraid of losing love? Who we are is a mix of our natural personality and how our environment shaped us. We need to identify dysfunctional maladaptive thoughts and behaviors we used because of our personal history. Finish this statement:
To receive my ________________’s love, I had to be_______________________.
Acceptance:
Why Me!? We were born into this specific life for a reason. Something about it resonated within our essence. Expand and look at the big picture. Why do you think that you went through the challenges of this lifetime? Why did you say, “yes” to living though the dramas within your family? Reflect on: “If we ask for strength or patience, we will be given experiences that make us be stronger or more patient.” What do you think you asked for when you were born into this life? Finish this statement:
I experienced_________________________ in my life because I asked the universe to make me more________________________.
Note: As you evolve and change on a deep level you will have setbacks. They are a normal part of being human. When you are disappointed, ashamed or feel like a failure do this:
- Forgive yourself for doing your best with who you were in the past. Show yourself understanding and compassion.
- Rest and heal. Connect to coping skills that are positive and supportive.
- Try your best going forward